This song story is simple: Of whom do you need to ask forgiveness? And who do you need to forgive? That's really the crux of this song. I wrote it at a time when my friend and I were in a funk. We couldn't seem to get on the same page, we had a lot of catching up to do and we were both on edge in our personal lives. After a lot of awkward and tense moments, both of us on the defensive, it came to a head. These things happen all the time. Since there are all kinds of people in our lives every day, and each relationship holds its own joys and challenges, each one, I am coming to learn, also requires a great deal of work. No matter the type of relationship, it requires work. And it's a choice. And that day, when we hit the wall, I didn't want to be heard anymore. I wanted resolution. You know, that switch that happens when you finally say, "You know what? It's probably been my problem all along." We set up a time to meet and in an oddly formal conversation, I apologized. And that's what you hear in this song. My apology. I was genuinely sorry for any pain I had caused my friend. And then as time wore on, I realized that perhaps that wasn't all there was to a resolution. I found that there were a few things that had hurt me too. And so later, this song for me became about forgiveness. About reconciliation. Altogether, both sides, reconciliation. The Bible tells us in Mark 11:25, "And whenever you stand praying, forgive, if you have anything against anyone, so that your Father also who is in heaven may forgive you your trespasses.” It says again in Ephesians 4:32. "Be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, as God in Christ forgave you." And in Matthew 6:15, "But if you do not forgive others their trespasses, neither will your Father forgive your trespasses." There's a song by Alicia Keys called "Holy War." And in it, she sings, "forgiveness is the only real revenge." That line is so insightful for me. Not because I believe we should take revenge, but rather because when we forgive, truly forgive, revenge is no longer necessary. Who do you need to forgive?